tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194329.post113004405645208216..comments2024-02-15T11:02:19.127-05:00Comments on On trying to see reality: FriendshipTomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02725175206527681317noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194329.post-1130541582502090162005-10-28T18:19:00.000-05:002005-10-28T18:19:00.000-05:00Of course it does not necessarily mean an abusive ...Of course it does not necessarily mean an abusive relationship. I'm talking about friendships that do result in them and their cause. Good for caring about others at the Salvation Army, yet that has no correlation to friendship with a peer, so the connection is moot. <BR/><BR/>And come on, you seriously think I'm advocating only being nice to others who are nice? There's a difference between loving and being polite. Trouble? I won't respond to that. <BR/><BR/>I appreciate helpful responses as always. I'm not the best writer, so I welcome comments that help me clarify my points.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10640975310016321828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194329.post-1130500892581619032005-10-28T07:01:00.000-05:002005-10-28T07:01:00.000-05:00i hate to mention it andrew, but merely caring/bei...i hate to mention it andrew, but merely caring/being compassionate toward someone who does not necessarily respond is not actually called an abusive relationship. it is called Charity in the not-a-handout sense of the word. I serve food at the Salvation Army--because i care about those people. Some of them are appreciative, and some of them aren't. Certainly those who don't appreciate it aren't abusing me. Does this mean that i should only be nice to people who are nice to me back? cuz ooh, that gets you in a lot of trouble. For starters, who should be nice first, you or the potential friend?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194329.post-1130200515200219222005-10-24T19:35:00.000-05:002005-10-24T19:35:00.000-05:00"if someone doesn't love you back, regardless of t...<I>"if someone doesn't love you back, regardless of the type of relationship, absolutely drop them! they are indeed NOT as good as you if they do not give love freely as you do."</I><BR/><BR/>Hmm, not really sure what you mean by "drop them" Andrew. Are you saying to be friends you have to "have" them in some way? If not, then what is there to drop? I would say if someone does not does not love you back, just don't let it affect you in anyway. I definitely think you should continue loving someone even if they don't love you back. But make sure you are loving in the non-attached way that leaves both people completely free to be themselves. Like you said in your first post, "In terms of relationships, the best way in which to do this is to freely love without thought of return".Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15827877163011513893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10194329.post-1130197737613507822005-10-24T18:48:00.000-05:002005-10-24T18:48:00.000-05:00if someone doesn't love you back, regardless of th...if someone doesn't love you back, regardless of the type of relationship, absolutely drop them! they are indeed NOT as good as you if they do not give love freely as you do.<BR/><BR/>to put it another way, you are not loving yourself or being true to yourself if you continue to love someone who does not love you in kind. this is called an abusive relationship!<BR/><BR/>thanks for the comment and thought.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10640975310016321828noreply@blogger.com